“To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson

Once again, I have just recently been betrayed by a close friend of mine. To say I am surprised would be a lie, but to say I am disappointed would be an understatement.
I hate the sequence of events that proceed betrayal by anyone, let alone someone considered to be a person close to you or someone you once confided in. The ache in the pit of your stomach from the initial blow of the let down, the pulsating of your temple as you try to ponder why this is happenening, and the pacing back and forth across an empty room in attempts to maintain your composure.
Lessons are very painful in life, but personally this one hits harder than most. I am very familiar with fake friends and the very real heartache that comes each time their true nature is revealed.

Sorrow is better than laughter,

For by a sad countenance the heart is made better (Ecclesiastes 7:3 NKJV)

I know the pain that accompanies the betrayal of a false friend is a sting not like many others. I also know the relief of the removal of such a person from your life is just as great. Sometimes we are unaware of the wolves in sheeps clothing that have crept into our houses. We are left to wonder which is worse? A) That they were wolves from the start or B) We are just now figuring it out? Either way, it hurts.
I am getting better at acceptance and trusting there is a reason for the way things happen sometimes.We do not always understand why the temporal pain we feel may very well be for long term happiness. God, however, knows why every time and I can personally thank Him for removing certain people throughout my life I probably would have held on to ignorantly forever.
If someone has lied to you, hurt you or hindered your progress in life repeatedly, chances are they are wolves too. Forgiveness is necessary, but self sabotage is not. If you are involved with angry, jealous, or spiteful people posing as your friends yet acting more like your enemies, begin to take inventory of these types of people in your life and honestly start to remove them qccordingly. Pray for strength and follow through. Pray for each person as well as you bid them farewell.
Fake friends are a very real problem for us all. Not many can say they have not experienced one in their life at some point. Despite a few bad apples, the harvest of your relationships will prove to be pie worthy! Do not be bitter in the betrayal of these people, but allow the experience to make you a bit better each time! God bless you all.

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20 thoughts on “Fake Friends Leave Real Scars

  1. I know how that feels because I feel like its happening right now as I speak to you fake friends that hurt me too by lying ignoring me and betraying me and putting me down so im feeling it now I can tell you it can hurt I too have learned to forgive its not easy I done it even though I feel very hurt right by their selfish distain for the feeling of others and their selves


  2. Hi Erica ,you have an excellent blog.Very inspirational thoughts.Blessings and respect.( Thank you for following my weblog.)jalal Michael


  3. Hi Noona!!! What a great thing to read tonight… Not sure how I missed this blog before! Thank you for sharing with us!


    1. Wow! Hi Shannon! Thank you for reading! I have few long time friends reading and to know you have stopped by is so encouraging!! Glad you were able to take away from the post and hope you read more! Love you!


  4. It is unfortunate that, over the years, I too have learned that people come into your life for “a reason, or a season.” So often, people do not realize that words they speak, or actions they take cannot be taken back and that they hurt. Not until it is done to them of course. BUT, I have also learned that a person can only do to you what you allow them to. So, as you indicated you are getting better at acceptance and trusting, it also teaches you what to allow and accept. Stay strong! Be true to your own feelings and trust that does not feel right!


    1. I don’t believe so. More like the Shepard led the flock through the wilderness and taught them how to survive amongst the wolves. Jesus sent his disciples out to lead very honest lives. Nothing dark escapes light. Nothing false evades truth. Whatever “clothing” one chooses to wear does not change what is underneath. Jesus was the realest of the real. His message was exactly the opposite. He led His disciples, then and now, to be upright and act right. Just my opinion. Be blessed!


      1. No, I was thinking of his actual words … but I mis-remembered Matthew 10:16 “Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves: be ye therefore ‘wise’ (some translations say ‘cunning’) as serpents, and harmless as doves.” Not ‘wolves in sheep’s clothing,’ but ‘lambs among wolves (not even dressed like wolves.’


  5. Thank you for the honest from the heart post. It touched me deeply as I am about to talk with a dear friend who is going through a very hard time due to betrayal. Like you, she is taking the high road and staying away from bitterness.

    Blessings ~ Wendy


  6. I am so sorry you have been betrayed. I too know this pain very well. May the arms of Jesus Christ embrace you with comfort and peace, and may His love reach out to this individual as well; for God wishes that all will come to repentance.


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