Every Party Has a Pooper


Then said the LORD, Thou hast had pity on the gourd, for the which thou hast not laboured, neither madest it grow; which came up in a night, and perished in a night:  And should not I spare Nineveh, that great city, wherein are more then sixscore thousand persons that cannot discern between their right hand and their left hand; and also much cattle? (Jonah 4:10-11)

I will be the first to admit that I have, many times, been the pooper of the party. I walked in with a sour attitude and left others with one due to my ungracious heart. It is so easy to feel like the world is against you and when you believe it, it shows in your outward actions. We get caught up in our own head and create a very negative and false sense of reality. We snap at the any and everything, become ungrateful,  and there is nothing anyone can say or do to get us to change our mind when we are in self-destruct mode. Very much like walking nightmares, it is probably best to stay far away from us in this kind of mood.

We usually regret the things we say and do in this state once we realize the foolish way we have behaved. I have made many mistakes in life due to my own bad attitude. Failed relationships, lost opportunities, and lonely nights are a few of the results of my selfishness. It is the enemy’s favorite game: You against you!

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Jonah is a great example of the contrast between an angry heart and the kind heart of the Lord. Jonah-EBible.com. Our behavior is the the polar opposite of  the way God is to us. We forget sometimes how much we are loved and how blessed we are to have the lives we do. The love of God is a great deterrent from mistreating ourselves and others when the enemy picks a fight. The reminder of the grace, the second chances, and the eternal peace we receive from God are enough to knock the nasty right out of your thinking. He loves all He has created from the flowers to your worst enemy and we are to respect that when we go about our daily lives. If He can pity us after all we do then surely we can sympathize for others versus judge them or ignore them. If He can forgive us for the things we do then we can forgive ourselves when we make mistakes. If He values the world and all in it then we are to value what He values.

God So Loved The World

The next time you find yourself at the pity party, remember the love God has for you and the power that goes with that love. In Him, you are unstoppable. You are intended to be happy, successful, and free of worry in times of trial. He did not sacrifice what He has for failures, pessimists, or haters. He did it for the humble, the honest and the faithful.With Jesus, we all are free of the struggle with the world, but we are the ones who control the struggle with ourselves. Don’t forget who you are and don’t stop others from being who they were born to be either. This life is God’s party. Don’t be the pooper.

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Pride and Prejudice


“A competitor will find a way to win. Competitors take bad breaks and use them to drive themselves just that much harder. Quitters take bad breaks and use them as reasons to give up. It’s all a matter of pride.” -Nancy Lopez

Prejudice-Defined

There is nothing worse than finding out one of your best friends has been in cahoots with the enemy. The icky feeling just thinking about betrayal and back stabbing just will not subside. I have been trying to piece this mystery together the past couple days and it has not been easy.

I have really had to put my pride to the side and think about why in the world a friend of mine would choose people who have been malicious to me in the past over me in the present. The hurt has kept me up at night and the anger has not allowed me to rest much either. Supposedly these people have come to my friend’s aid in times of need and therefore I should be somewhat accepting of their new alliance. I was dooped out of employment by one of these knights in shining armor and in constant turmoil when working by the other. Now both have managed to slither their way into one of my closest friends good graces and I have been completely pushed out of the scenario.

Luckily for me, I have God and His Word to knock some sense into my pounding head. If I allow myself to feel jealous, angry, or betrayed I am in turn giving the enemy and these people exactly what they want. If I allow my pride and prejudice to fade then I am able to see the situation clearly and take a deep breath of relief.

Every word of God is pure; He is a shield to those who put their trust in Him.Do not add to His words, Lest He rebuke you, and you be found a liar (Proverbs 30:5 – 30:6 NKJV)

I am not concerned with petty disputes or re hashing past hurts. I am not interested in going backwards into the trap of who I was or where I have come from. All of these people reside in the part of my life I have outgrown and happily left behind. I must admit it was not easy to let it go, but now that I have I cannot keep from laughing about the whole thing! So silly, pride.

You see, it does not matter what you feel about people or situations like this. Facts speak for themselves. Be true to truth and you are real. Give in to the fake and you become part of the lie. If you find a few false in the path of your truth, keep moving. They may present themselves for a fading moment, but your light will remove the shadows they temporarily cast in the long run.

God is so very real and He is the best friend anyone can have. He will not change His mind about the worth of your friendship. He will not flip a switch on and off when it comes to respecting you. He is all the time, all about you.
Pride will destroy the most important relationship you have with yourself and cause prejudice inside of your own heart. Do not waste precious moments on petty nonsense. People try very hard to get you to quit, but God effortlessly prevents that from happening when you listen!
Be happy, be bright, be you! When a liar tells a fib do not lie. When a snake enters the room simply smile as it slithers by. Time will reveal the truth you feel. Haters were meant to lurk at your heel.

“There is a set of harmless liars, frequently to be met with in company, who deal much in the marvellous. Their usual intention is to please and entertain; but as men are most delighted with what they conceive to be the truth, these people mistake the means of pleasing, and incur universal blame.” -David Hume

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Fake Friends Leave Real Scars


“To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson

Once again, I have just recently been betrayed by a close friend of mine. To say I am surprised would be a lie, but to say I am disappointed would be an understatement.
I hate the sequence of events that proceed betrayal by anyone, let alone someone considered to be a person close to you or someone you once confided in. The ache in the pit of your stomach from the initial blow of the let down, the pulsating of your temple as you try to ponder why this is happenening, and the pacing back and forth across an empty room in attempts to maintain your composure.
Lessons are very painful in life, but personally this one hits harder than most. I am very familiar with fake friends and the very real heartache that comes each time their true nature is revealed.

Sorrow is better than laughter,

For by a sad countenance the heart is made better (Ecclesiastes 7:3 NKJV)

I know the pain that accompanies the betrayal of a false friend is a sting not like many others. I also know the relief of the removal of such a person from your life is just as great. Sometimes we are unaware of the wolves in sheeps clothing that have crept into our houses. We are left to wonder which is worse? A) That they were wolves from the start or B) We are just now figuring it out? Either way, it hurts.
I am getting better at acceptance and trusting there is a reason for the way things happen sometimes.We do not always understand why the temporal pain we feel may very well be for long term happiness. God, however, knows why every time and I can personally thank Him for removing certain people throughout my life I probably would have held on to ignorantly forever.
If someone has lied to you, hurt you or hindered your progress in life repeatedly, chances are they are wolves too. Forgiveness is necessary, but self sabotage is not. If you are involved with angry, jealous, or spiteful people posing as your friends yet acting more like your enemies, begin to take inventory of these types of people in your life and honestly start to remove them qccordingly. Pray for strength and follow through. Pray for each person as well as you bid them farewell.
Fake friends are a very real problem for us all. Not many can say they have not experienced one in their life at some point. Despite a few bad apples, the harvest of your relationships will prove to be pie worthy! Do not be bitter in the betrayal of these people, but allow the experience to make you a bit better each time! God bless you all.

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Fake Friends Leave Real Scars


“To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson

Once again, I have just recently been betrayed by a close friend of mine. To say I am surprised would be a lie, but to say I am disappointed would be an understatement.
I hate the sequence of events that proceed betrayal by anyone, let alone someone considered to be a person close to you or someone you once confided in. The ache in the pit of your stomach from the initial blow of the let down, the pulsating of your temple as you try to ponder why this is happenening, and the pacing back and forth across an empty room in attempts to maintain your composure.
Lessons are very painful in life, but personally this one hits harder than most. I am very familiar with fake friends and the very real heartache that comes each time their true nature is revealed.

Sorrow is better than laughter,

For by a sad countenance the heart is made better (Ecclesiastes 7:3 NKJV)

I know the pain that accompanies the betrayal of a false friend is a sting not like many others. I also know the relief of the removal of such a person from your life is just as great. Sometimes we are unaware of the wolves in sheeps clothing that have crept into our houses. We are left to wonder which is worse? A) That they were wolves from the start or B) We are just now figuring it out? Either way, it hurts.
I am getting better at acceptance and trusting there is a reason for the way things happen sometimes.We do not always understand why the temporal pain we feel may very well be for long term happiness. God, however, knows why every time and I can personally thank Him for removing certain people throughout my life I probably would have held on to ignorantly forever.
If someone has lied to you, hurt you or hindered your progress in life repeatedly, chances are they are wolves too. Forgiveness is necessary, but self sabotage is not. If you are involved with angry, jealous, or spiteful people posing as your friends yet acting more like your enemies, begin to take inventory of these types of people in your life and honestly start to remove them qccordingly. Pray for strength and follow through. Pray for each person as well as you bid them farewell.
Fake friends are a very real problem for us all. Not many can say they have not experienced one in their life at some point. Despite a few bad apples, the harvest of your relationships will prove to be pie worthy! Do not be bitter in the betrayal of these people, but allow the experience to make you a bit better each time! God bless you all.

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